And again…you who remind me of my failures…please show me your consistent accomplishments that are my example to walk in.
Oh…what’s that? You just wanna show me my failures to pull me back into the bucket of do-nothing that you live in? Oh…sorry…I actually mistook your intention as something to bless…silly me. – Charissa Grace
I am consumed with this sentiment right now. My sister and litter mate knows this violent hemorrhaging intimately – death spilling out in waves as the darkest hidden places are finally exposed to light.
“Just keep letting the shit flow out…too long you ate it and harbored it in the name of serving Them and them…and now it needs to just get out.”
To which I replied, “Yes, I ate soooooooooo much…and it was never enough for them…never asked of me by Them. Purging, purging, purging…the shit I consumed for decades back into their do-nothing bucket. Here ya go people. Have it all.”
This is going to take a while, this phase. The worst and hardest part of a detox.
It’s a hell of a thing to break an addiction when pretty much everyone you’ve ever known is either a junky or a pusher/pimp with a vested interest in keeping you hooked and numb.
Reality (freedom) costs everything.
It’s the straight and narrow road so few are willing to acknowledge, much less travel – this death to everything, death to self and all its rights and judgments of wrongs.
It is the Way, the Truth and the Life. You want to know and commune with the ineffable? You must be ripped open and purged of everything that claims certainty and knowledge about anything concerning God. Absolutely everything. Consider the cost.
It’s really no mystery as to why we were so unpopular. That tends to happen when you focus exclusively on a Gospel that genuinely welcomes and pursues all the “wrong” people coupled with an invitation to follow Jesus into death in the most practical and applicable terms. Hardly anyone is up for that kind of disruption. It’s an absurd Good News to preach, and you will pay with your life if you do it with any kind of integrity.
I’m so envious of my friends who instinctively by nature know and engage the Goodness, if not necessarily the Name. It truly is a terrible thing to be chosen and elected, to see so clearly with no way to un-see, like Paul, who had no choice in the matter but to be a disciple of Jesus and pay the inherent cost.
But I do not envy those who know the Name, loudly praise the Name, aggressively defend the Name, arrogantly claim exclusive ownership of the Name yet callously trample Goodness underfoot.
You white washed tombs full of decaying corpses, you disgust and repulse me! I will not keep down the poison you force fed me for so long before beating and abandoning me. No, not for one second longer. I spew it all out now. Every drop. Wave after wave, it keeps coming up and out.
I spent my first official day of detox curled up on the floor behind my kitchen counter (not wanting my children to walk in on me) silently screaming and wailing and beating my forehead with my fist, “FUCK THEM ALL!”
Every one who plied us with vapid dishonest platitudes to our face but plotted our destruction behind the closed doors of the board room. FUCK YOU!
Every poison tongue who disparaged us and discouraged others from associating with us. FUCK YOU!
Every person who caused the weak and the vulnerable to suffer for their commitment to us, you who willfully and maliciously misled and planted seeds of confusion and doubt and guilt. FUCK YOU A THOUSAND TIMES OVER! It would be better to be thrown into the sea with a millstone hung around your neck than have to answer to God for what you’ve done to torment these little ones.
You with full knowledge of the burden put upon us; you who had the ultimate responsibility to care for us; you who had the power to stop it with one word; you who didn’t have the balls to do anything as the wolves encircled us and began tearing our flesh but somehow found some massive ones when I came crawling to you bleeding and begging for help – “Well, you brought this on yourselves. You must not have been praying enough.”
FUCK, FUCK, FUCK, FUCK YOU!
It’s a fine line between “fuck you” and “thank you.” The line was indistinguishable last night. Go ahead now and insert “thank you” for every “fuck you” above. (With the exception of tormenting and manipulating the vulnerable…gunna just leave that as a solid FU as Jesus seemed to think so too).
Tyrannical Church Biddies and Spineless Self-Preserving Duplicitous Figureheads, you have no idea what you’ve unleashed. The very thing you tried to silence and stamp out, whether directly or through neglect and starvation, is unstoppable now. Thank you, truly. I am free from decades of repression and destruction and lies. I am free to speak and to live and to love and there is absolutely nothing more you can do to me. It’s not like you can take anything else away from someone who’s been reduced to nothing. You can’t kill a dead person. And I’m ready, so ready to be dead to it all.
But first I must purge, forcing myself to feel every single thing as deep as it goes. Then up and out.
Thank you all. Thank you, thank you, thank you from the bottom of my heart and the depths of my soul. Up and out. I will continue to purge until I am good and dead. I can’t wait.
My Sister and all the right “wrong” people are waiting for me there.
9 thoughts on “Purging”
I so totally love you.
Thank you for your words that do so much better to express the truth than my tears and agony.
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You are not alone, Angela. You are in the best of company. A friend and I came to a great nugget of truth together this morning – it’s not about doing everything you can not to break, it’s about finding people you can break with. Tears, brokenness, agony are treasures here. Yours are most welcome. ❤
I so fiercely LOVE YOU!!!!!
Just for good measure:
Fuck tTHEM!!! FUCK them!!! FUCK THEM ALL!!!!!
*Charissa merrily flies a double fuck finger and sings the “fuckity fuck” song*
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Slowly but surely the “fuckity fuck” song is transitioning into a song of thanksgiving. ❤
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They’ve all been given. There is only a resounding chorus of “thank you” left in me. ❤
"It’s a fine line between “fuck you” and “thank you.” Tyrannical Church Biddies and Spineless Self-Preserving Duplicitous Figureheads, you have no idea what you’ve unleashed. The very thing you tried to silence and stamp out, whether directly or through neglect and starvation, is unstoppable now. Thank you, truly. I am free from decades of repression and destruction and lies. I am free to speak and to live and to love and there is absolutely nothing more you can do to me. It’s not like you can take anything else away from someone who’s been reduced to nothing. You can’t kill a dead person."
Sorry to see so much anguish and anger (note the connecting root). Praying to see you break through to true freedom in Christ.
Thank you so much, Mitch. I’d never considered the root “ang” before, but it is a most fitting description for how I felt and in what condition I wrote this – “narrow, tight, painfully constricted” I’ve always been a bit of a claustrophobe, so perhaps that translates to feeling hemmed in by life circumstances as well. A month out from this I see it as a major turning point spiritually. The most poisonous things spewed out of me quite violently that night as I allowed myself to recognize them fully. The purging continued (a bit more gently) the following few days until there really was nothing left but “thank you” to all involved and a kind of peace and expansive openness to whatever comes next after such a prolonged trial of feeling constricted and crushed. I think I will soon be able to cherish this “Dark Night of the Soul” for what it’s accomplished in transformation. Thanks again for the thoughtful read. It means a lot to me.